Over the years, many of my friends have tried them all, especially matrimonial websites. Some have been very successful in meeting their special someone, including my best friend [http://wedfirm.com/forum/2009/07/23/my-best-friends-wedding], while many have had somewhat negative experiences. The logical question is why were some so successful, while others have simply abandoned the idea of using online matrimonial services?

The answer lies in the quality of the service and those that signup as its members. The quality of the service is dependent upon the hands-on approach and support various sites provide to its members. Of course, this may or may not be within the control of the members. This article is more about the members, and steps they can take to ensure an opportunity of finding someone special. As I spoke to several of my friends who are happily married to individuals, they met using online services, two things were very clear. First, these men and women had taken time to fill out solidly honest information about themselves, including providing realistic photographs. Second, they were fully aware that they had to practice an enormous amount of patience in finding a “good thing”.

The initial question everyone should ask themselves as they register for an online matrimonial services is: Would you want to initiate a conversation with someone online, with all of its facets of anonymity, who is clearly not being honest in their representation of themselves? The answer from my friends was a resounding “NO”. Those of my friends who provided truthful profile information knew instantly which members were lying, and which were being generally honest. They immediately skipped over those individuals that had filled out their profiles and information with silly sayings or a juvenile display of meaningless letters and numbers, and responded only to those that had simple and straightforward responses with actual photographs.

On the other hand, some of my friends who used fake names and contrived occupations, indicated that they were simply trying to protect themselves from online “crazies”. This of course is an understandable concern and should be taken seriously; however, the consequence is that you are going to attract those who are doing the same as you. For if you have a fake profile with half-truths and attempt to speak to someone who is being honest, then human psychology sets in and the honest person will inevitably discover that you were dishonest, minimizing any chances of a potential relationship with a sincere person. Therefore, when filling out an online profile provide honest and general information, there is no need to pour your heart out in your profile for strangers. However, be concise, clear with your expectations, and truthful about your general biographical information, such as age, marital status, photographs, and religion.

My best friend who met her husband on an online service, said that she filled out her information honestly. She first emailed him for several weeks before initiating a conversation via telephone. After many months of phone conversations, they decided to meet and things progressed from there to introduction to family, engagement, and marriage. The entire process took about two years. In other words, they were invested in forming a lasting relationship from the time they signed up with the service. And, here is where patience is crucial. If you want a good thing to last, then take your time! I have six close friends from various backgrounds who found their partners using online services. These men and women are happy that they took a chance on honesty and found their life partners. The rest are still looking.

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